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Common Mistakes When Trying to Lose Weight fast

Obesity has become an increasing problem in our fast-paced world that often keeps us too busy to fix and enjoy healthy foods and lifestyles. Lose weight fast is no easy task. It requires changing our habits and routines and is not about one quick fix.

If we want to be successful at losing weight and maintaining a healthy weight, we must persevere in changing patterns regarding what and when we eat as well as our physical activity.

Often times, though, it is not only what we eat and what we do for exercise that impacts our success or failure to lose weight – it is also what we think and believe. So many people meet defeat in their minds long before their new diet or exercise regime fails. Then, when the fad diet or exercise plan of choice does fail (or we fail at it), it drops us deeper into self-defeating attitudes.

Losing weight fast for women is especially difficult. It is so easy for women especially to suffer from poor self-image and confidence based on their repeated struggles to lose weight. But self-defeating attitudes, poor self-esteem, and bad expectations or misguided beliefs can all sabotage our best attempts to achieve fast weight loss.

If you are struggling with unwanted weight gain and are looking for ways to lose weight, keep reading. I’ll first address many of the mistakes people make when they do try to lose weight, many of them based in wrong assumptions or bad attitudes. Then I’ll discuss methods of how to lose weight fast and easy and keep it off.

Finally, consider how cognitive behaviour hypnotherapy as part of your weight management program may benefit you and give you the jump start and motivation to lose weight.

Mistakes to Avoid When Trying to Lose Weight

Unfortunately, there are many weight loss myths and attitude out there that many of us believe, but which unfortunately are likely to have the opposite of what we’d hoped.

Here are some common mistakes to avoid when you are trying to lose weight and develop a healthy self-image:

  • Weighing every day: This is one of the least helpful and mentally discouraging habits you could have while trying to lose weight. Remember that our body weight fluctuates by up to 4lbs on a given day.
    Also remember that muscle weighs more than fat, so if you are exercising, the scale may not show the difference, but your clothes and profile certainly will. Do yourself a favour and avoid the scale except for occasional check-ins (maybe once a month).
  • Obsessing over calorie count: Food and healthy eating habits are more than calorie counting. Furthermore, even if you are consuming low calories, if you are not exercising, you may still not be burning more than you eat. But if you are exercising with a low-calorie diet, the lack of sufficient calories could lead to muscle loss and a slowing down of your metabolism.
  • Not exercising: Like it or not, exercising is necessary for a truly healthy body, and proper exercise is going to go a long way in helping you lose fat and excess weight. Additionally, because you can lose muscle mass as well as fat during weight loss, the best way to ensure that you keep muscle is by exercising. Of course, you can go to the other extreme and exercise too much, which could lead to potential stress and injury to your body. The biggest thing to remember is a healthy balance.
  • Overestimating exercise: Many people make the mistake of assuming that if they run (or exercise) for 30 minutes a day, it will burn off whatever unhealthy food they decide to consume that day. This simply isn’t true. What takes seconds to consume can take over an hour to burn off. You need to make healthy eating choices and exercise, not one or the other.
  • Diet foods: This is a tricky one. So many foods advertise themselves as diet or “natural,” but many of these products replace calories with sugar to help them taste better. This ends up being just as unhealthy and contributing to weight gain anyway. Additionally, while many of these foods may contain fewer calories up front, they leave you hungrier and more likely to overeat later.

Steps to Take to Start Losing Weight Fast

Successful weight loss is often much simpler than we want to make it. Often, the following simple steps can go a long way to starting you on a successful weight loss journey:

  • Stay positive: Do not allow negative thoughts and self-defeating attitude to creep in. When your inner critic tells you “I can’t do this” or “I’ll just quit again,” tell it to stop. Think about all of the positive long-term benefits and pleasures you will be able to enjoy by succeeding and tell yourself you can do it one small step at a time.
  • Keep it simple: Don’t over-complicate the process with difficult meal plans and exercise routines that take hours a day. Start small and keep it simple. Choose whole foods over processed foods when you can, eat when you feel hungry but eat smaller portions and stop when you are full.
  • Set realistic goals: Don’t start by trying to accomplish what you envision is the perfect, ideal diet and exercise routine. If you haven’t been disciplined in your eating or exercising habits before, jumping from nothing to body-builder plan will result in defeat. Set realistic goals, implementing just a couple of small changes at a time. Start with steps you know you can accomplish to build your confidence and momentum.

I love helping clients accomplish their weight loss goals and helping them see it can be much easier and simpler than they thought. Please give me a call today to learn more about how hypnotherapy can help you accomplish your weight loss goals.

5 Things You Can Do To Boost Your Self-Confidence

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“Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who matter don’t mind and those that mind, don’t matter.” Dr Seuss

How you think and feel about yourself? Having self-love, self-belief and self-esteem are some of the most important things you can do for yourself. They may sound selfish or narcissistic, but actually having this self-confidence will help you be a better person, help others and make the world a better place to be.

Being able to build and maintain one’s self-esteem is important:

  • Many of us feel insecure because we compare ourselves to other people, and when things don’t work out for us and they do for others we feel inadequate. When we start caring and loving ourselves for who we are, we don’t get so hung up on setbacks or meeting other people’s expectations.
  • When we have higher self-esteem and confidence we don’t need other people’s validation or attention as much. We feel more relaxed and in control of our emotions and worry less about what other people say.
  • When we love ourselves more and have better self-esteem, we’re less likely to think negatively or self-sabotage. This creates more positivity and we become more motivated to try to achieve our goals.

When you work toward building your self-confidence you will be able to stay calm and handle the difficult times better.

In their lives many people experience issues with self-esteem and self-confidence. Sometimes this may be for a short period, for others it can be a long term problem. Whatever your background, it is never too late to work on these issues. There has been a stage in my own life when things have been difficult, but I worked on any self-worth issues I have had from my past and keep myself calm every day. My life has now become simpler and building my self-esteem means that I am happier now.

Using my own personal experience and my years spent working as a clinical hypnotherapist cognitive behaviour therapist, I have developed a programme to help other people with self-confidence issues. Find out more about hypnotherapy for self-confidence here.

Here are 5 things you can do to boost yourself like I did:

  1. Learn how to quieten the inner critic and build your confidence. When you have the self-destructive thoughts like ‘you are not good at your job’ or ‘you are very lazy and not intelligent enough to do this’ or ‘you are not pretty like your sister or friend’, you change how you think and work on being more positive, stop the critical voice or inner critic voice in your head and get a STOP phrase that works for you. This will help you to find a better way to motivate yourself and move forward.
  2. Learn healthy positive and motivational habits that will help you to improve your self-confidence and take action towards a goal that means a lot to you. A single most powerful method to inspire and motive you is to jot down in your diary things that will help you achieve that goal. For example: if you want to lose weight and get more energy to look after your family, do the things that will help you achieve that goal. Keep the dairy updated and look at it every day to see how you can improve on the positive things and build on it. Refocus on the things you like to do and push through the barriers so you put most of your efforts on important goals.
  3. Replace your perfectionist ideas. If you are afraid to take action, for example making a call to a new business or an old colleague, if you are afraid to live up to a perfect standard you have set for yourself. If you procrastinate and let the negative thoughts take over you will let your self-esteem take a drop and have negative thoughts about your performance. Handle your failures and mistakes as they can be a learning experience in a positive manner: we truly learn through our mistakes. Don’t be too hard on yourself and have a plan ready in case you made a mistake or you might fall into a despairing mood.
  4. Try a new action so you can be challenged to try a small goal or a big goal. You will boost your self-confidence when you step outside your comfort zone. If you have a fear of failure, take small steps first. Remember not to compare yourself to other people because that can be self-destructive. Instead focus on you and what you need to do to achieve your goal: replace self-destructive thoughts with positive affirmations.
  5. Surround yourself with a supportive network of people such as friends and family, therefore you are keeping away from destructive or unsupportive people. Being with uplifting or positive people will feel good and you will think and feel positive thoughts. Remember the reason why you are doing this to boost your confidence, build self-esteem and make yourself a priority.

“Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending”. Maria Robinson

These 5 things that you can do to boost self-confidence have done a wonderful job on my own self-esteem. If you need any help or support contact me on [email protected] or call me on 07967151790.

More on how hypnosis can be used to help people with self-esteem and self-confidence issues can be found here.

Quit Smoking With These Self-Hypnosis Tips

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Whether No Smoking Day (8th March 2017) is the reason you want to quit smoking, or if you’ve just decided that now is the right time to stop smoking for good, finding the right smoking cessation method can be difficult.

Patches, gum, nicotine replacements and other methods can be successful for some people, but not for everyone. However, self-hypnosis is a great option – whether used alone or in combination with another smoking cessation method.

In this post I share why self-hypnosis is so successful, and also tips for practising it at home.

How Does Hypnosis For Smoking Cessation Work?

Most people believe that hypnosis is like stage hypnosis, it will make you ‘cluck like a chicken’ or ‘dance around the room’; but hypnosis is an evidence-based method and does not make you fall asleep or do things against your will. During a hypnosis session you will relax through visualisation and deep breathing exercises, and the hypnotherapist will guide you through the whole process. You will receive a piece a music that helps with the relaxation or a hypnosis CD. Suggestions given during the hypnosis session will help you change your feelings and thoughts; and the behaviour that follows. It will help you focus on your stop smoking goals by accepting the suggestions and preparing you for success.

Self-hypnosis can help you to concentrate and focus on your end goal to stop smoking for good by changing your habits and behaviours.

If you have found it difficult to gain control over your smoking habit in the past and respond well to suggestions, self-hypnosis will work well for you. Hypnosis relies on your belief that you can quit and you are ready to make the changes that is needed to quit. Your commitment to quit smoking and self-hypnosis will help you succeed with your goal.

The following self-hypnosis tips are best used after having had a professional hypnosis for smoking cessation session. If you would like to discuss your goals to stop smoking with me, please book a free 30 minute consultation here.

10 Self-Hypnosis Tips To Stop Smoking

  1. Practice self-hypnosis by finding a quiet place free from social media, mobile phones, or other distractions. Wear comfy clothes and schedule your time so you are not rushing through this process.
  2. Sit down on a comfortable couch and relax and take deep calm breaths. Try not to fall asleep just gently enter the deep hypnotic state.
  3. Self-hypnosis suggestions are given that are indirect statements such as ‘Smoking is bad for my health and I want to not put harmful substances into my body anymore’.
  4. Take deep breaths (in through your nose and out through your mouth) and focus on a specific spot in the room.
  5. Relax and close your eyes and ‘let your body go’ or settle deep into the couch, feeling heavy and loose.
  6. Allow your attention to focus on your in breath and out breath. Simply take calm breaths and if your concentration wanders bring it back to your deep relaxing breathing.
  7. Remember and repeat positive affirmations and keep them real so they are not too far from what you would normally say to yourself.
  8. Use a soft and soothing tone in your voice and don’t get frustrated as it might take a little while to practice and teach your body to relax and let go. For example: ‘I will not damage my body anymore and I respect myself’ should be said in the present not past tense and saying things that are happening for you at this moment.
  9. Once you have finished with the affirmations, feel that you are returning to the present and count from 1-5 and stretch and slowly open your eyes, return to the present.
  10. Make sure you give yourself plenty of time for this to work as self-hypnosis is not the same as being present in a session with a clinical hypnotherapist. Keep motivated and keep up with your practice daily and you will succeed.

Some people can quit after one session with the clinical hypnotherapist while for others it can take six sessions for this to work. Every person has their own unique way that therapy works for them. By practicing self-hypnosis techniques you will be effective in gaining control of this habit that had plagued you for a long time. Keep your mind busy when you feel the strong urge to smoke, also eat healthy meals and drink plenty of water. Find an exercise class or an activity that you can keep busy with and try to avoid alcohol drinks that may make you go back to smoking again.

Self-hypnosis can be difficult to master and does not work for everyone, which is why a session with a clinical hypnotherapist can help you get started. The therapist may be able to uncover other underlying issues that are affecting your ability to stop smoking, for example stress and anxiety.

Quitting smoking with self-hypnosis as a stand-alone or as an adjunct therapy is an effective way to stop smoking. Self-hypnosis will help you to keep reinforcing the suggestions given in the sessions especially on the days that you feel the urge to smoke a cigarette. Remember that smoking is not a physical habit or behaviour, it is a mental problem and the way to achieve success with your quit smoking goal is through getting the help you need.

If you would like to discuss any of the above in more detail please get in touch with me. Call +44 (0)796 715 1790 or email [email protected]

Or you can get started straightaway by booking your free 30 minute consultation below.

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How do you deal with growing old?

How do you deal with growing old?

Adjusting to the passing years and “senior citizen” status can be quite a challenge. People often focus on the physical aspects of growing old but, in some ways, adapting emotionally and mentally can be even more important.

The good news is that with the right approach, you can be motivated to take on new tasks and live your life with energy and vitality.

I help clients to continue to learn and grow as they get older, so their life-changing is made easier. As an example Michael talked to me about the challenges he next birthday brings:

“I hesitate to tell people my age or that its my birthday because they might get the wrong idea that I am growing old and giving up. They might begin to feel sorry for me and I would not want that to happen.

But I am not giving up. I am moving on ahead…”

Growing old brings inevitable changes but many of these changes are positive. Age brings increased resourced of experienced, perspective and wisdom.

On the negative side, other people can have a constrained view about what is possible for older people. That’s why it’s important that we live our own life according to our own values and capabilities to experience as much growth as we can, as long as we can.

The following poem by Terry Q titled “Adjusting to passing years” sums this up well for me:

I thirst much sooner quicker now
Tire faster… work much less –
Not allowed, restrained by those
Who so much care for me.

I tread the paths much slower now
breathe a bit more heavy edge
hover in still shadows watching
waiting for a slip in chance
for something safe permissible
a 70-year old may do.

hawk-like they watch my every move
Polite, concerned, considerate
my indiscretions barrier bound
I bow, I smile quiet step aside.

They really care for me, I know
and that is what really matters

Not bored or helpless whining sad
My life cup filled to overflow
All of me is there full there
and I too care for them my ways

I care for them I really do
that is what also matters.

I am not a senior citizen but none of us is as young as we were! I seek to age with as much wisdom and grace as possible and to this end, I have developed practices to help myself and my clients continue to learn and grow.

So I make sure to try new things and focus on the good aspects of getting old.

 

I look for good examples of people staying active whilst getting old. Some of these are celebrities (like Rod Stewart or Mick Jagger!) but others are friends or members of my own family. They remind me of my future and that there is always hope.

I have made plans for my future and I continue to adapt these over time. I learn something new every month, I help out at a charity shop for a few days of the week, I travel regularly to meet my friends that I have not seen in years etc.

I also read a lot and know what to expect with my ageing process and made plans for my eventual death, meaning all of it is less scary to me.

Being positive and grateful for the full life I have led is one of the main things I start my day with.

By doing some form of exercise every day (which could be as simple as a walk around the block and eating healthily) I have been able to keep healthy in mind and body.

If you are reading this and are feeling old, drawn, tired all the time and less energy, remember this:

Ageing is not ‘lost youth’ but a new stage of opportunity and strength.
-Betty Friedan.

Hypnotherapy can help you get to feel more energetic, cultivate positive thoughts and manage the ageing process with optimism and grace.

Contact me to find out how hypnotherapy can help you feel confident and help you with the next stage of your journey.

Book your free 30-minute phone consultation with me: http://bit.ly/1GG130U

Never give up on your dreams

Never give up on your dreams

Most people don’t believe in themselves and find it difficult to think big. When things get tough they often give up on their dreams and don’t achieve the things they are capable of.

But I want people never to give up on themselves. I want them to be positive and resilient, live a full life and be able to achieve success with their goals.

To illustrate, I will tell you a story about Puddles, the frog.

Puddles was a handsome prince that had been turned into a frog by a wicked witch. A lesser frog would have given up but Puddles always believed in himself.

A princess came around. She saw the handsome “prince” in him and agreed to his request to kiss him…mmmuaaaaahh!

Puddles thought that he would live happily ever after!

But real life is not always as simple and easy as a fairy tale. And sometime later, one afternoon while he was swimming in the Royal lake, Puddles had a rather scary encounter with a hungry stork.

Other frogs would have lost out in that encounter but not our Puddles. Despite facing what seemed like an impossible situation, Puddles focussed on what he could do, took action and saved the day for himself.

 

And therein lies a lesson for the rest of us.

After his escape from the stork, Puddles got back to his palace and began to think about how he could make himself helpful to others.

He thought about the many people he knew who did not like the way they looked and felt about themselves. Ugly frogs in themselves they were looking at rather than the handsome princes/princesses they really were.

In a flash of enlightenment he knew what he had to do.

To reach out and help people see themselves as they really were, he decided to become a Therapist.

He did that…and he hasn’t looked back since!

I am Andrea and I am not a frog…or a prince!….but in some ways my story is similar.

I faced really difficult times in my life when I almost felt like giving up. But I was able to persevere and overcome challenges…even when circumstances seemed really bad.

And these difficult times provided deep motivation for me to become a clinical hypnotherapist and to help other people. I now help my clients through difficult times so they never give up and can continue to pursue their dreams.
“Tell me about it! I’m listening!”

I know that sometimes unpleasant things in life happen that are quite beyond your control. Other people can treat you badly. People around you may be disregarding you or taking you for granted. Your relationships can turn bitter, sometimes through no fault of your own. Situations at home or at work can be oppressive and even scary.

How do we deal with these issues?
We have to start by looking after ourselves and sometimes that means getting help from a professional. Its only when we are happy with ourselves that we are able to help others.
We can then go about helping relatives, friends and maybe even strangers see and bring out the really beautiful part of themselves.
Sometimes we try to cope through hard times by ourselves but often its much more powerful and effective to reach out for help.

A professional clinical hypnotherapist can provide empathy and support but, more importantly, the tools to help you see life’s challenges differently and to change bad habits and overcome fears that may have been holding you back.

If you want any information on how Clinical Hypnosis can help you be more confident, reach your goals believe in yourself and never give up, call me now or book your 15 minute free phone consultation http://bit.ly/1GG130U

Hypnotherapy can help you not just dream big but give you the confidence to pursue those dreams actively and achieve greater success in your life.

Are IBS symptoms restricting your life?

                                                        Are IBS symptoms restricting your life?

Irritable Bowel Syndrome symptoms affects the everyday life of thousands of people in the UK. Sadly, sufferers often live with the symptoms for years without finding either a proper diagnosis of IBS or a way of managing (let alone eliminating) those symptoms.

How can you tell if the symptoms of IBS are affecting your life?

Does your tummy often feel like it is churning and you have a cramping pain in your gut? Also you feel your anxiety/stress building and you need to be near a toilet all day?

The UK National Institute of Clinical Excellence advises GPs to check patients for IBS if they experience any of these “ABC” symptoms for six months or more:

• Abdominal pain or cramps
• Bloating
• Change in bowel movements – diarrhoea, constipation or both

There are other symptoms, which include excess wind and gas, nausea or tiredness that can indicate IBS.

So are you experiencing the symptoms of IBS and not sure where to turn? Have your seen GP’s, specialists, consultants, had blood tests, ultrasounds, sigmoidoscopy or colonoscopy etc?

 

Whilst experiencing the symptoms of IBS, you may at the same time feel anxious and that something is not right with your life.

This can be a message from your brain or from your tummy telling you that there is too much stress in your life.

But here is the good news. You can learn to deal your problem and live your life free from anxiety and stress that exacerbates your IBS symptoms.

Please take heart!

Clinical hypnosis can help you reduce your anxiety and stress, and you can learn techniques to live your life free from the pain of IBS. This does not involve long-term medication, or have any side-effects and can be tailored to suit each person and their specific needs.

Adam was a client of mine with IBS and here is his story:
I have suffered from IBS since I was a young boy. I had been to my GP many times, had various tests, and cut out various foods. But still, my IBS flared up all my life. I am 30 years old now and feel that, until recently, I have not lived at all since I needed to be near a loo all the time.
My GP told me there was nothing physically wrong with me and suggested I look for alternative therapies such as hypnosis. After researching IBS further on the Internet I found Andrea and I contacted her to get help. It felt like taking a leap into the unknown but I emailed her to see if she could help.
After a couple of emails, I booked an initial hypnotherapy session. During this session, we discussed my IBS history and figured out that I was not born with the symptoms of IBS (cramping or tummy ache). At around the age of 10, my IBS symptoms started: there was a lot of bloating and discomfort with my digestive system. Our sessions helped me recognise and deal with a personal trauma I’d had around the age of 6.
I was not sure what to expect from the hypnotherapy session but I went to our appointment with an open mind. Initially, I found hypnotherapy a strange experience but I soon got used to the relaxation and guided meditation. The very next day, the toilet routine that had dictated the majority of my life virtually disappeared altogether. More and more improvements and life adjustments came with each additional session.
After a total of four sessions and a follow-up, my life has radically changed for the better. I now do things I could never do before and I am enjoying life and all its aspects”. Contacting Andrea was the best decision I have ever made.
Just remember to be open-minded and willing to take that step!

If you are worried about your IBS or want to more information about how hypnotherapy can help you with your problem, please contact me on 07967151790 or email me: [email protected] to book your free 30-minute phone consultation with me.

I look forward to speaking with you!

Andrea Smith (MBPsS)

 

Your guide to stop smoking for good, with Hypnotherapy in surrey

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 The very first few weeks without a cigarette are the hardest without hypnotherapy.

Your body is fighting your addiction to cigarettes.

You can get through the physical cravings for a cigarette.

Find the right method that works for you.

Talking to the right professional makes a huge difference to your chances to quit for Good and stay that way.

Quitting for good works if you Believe that you can do it.

Clinical Hypnotherapy has been successfully used to quit smoking because it gets right to the source of your smoking habit. Hypnotherapy is all about helping you make the changes in your habits and behaviours, but it does not make you do what you do not want to do.

“Change takes place when people take action. Real change takes place when people persist in taking action over a period of time”.

 

 Why would you go to a hypnotherapist to stop smoking?

  • To stop smoking.
  • To experience guided relaxation.
  • To learn how to tap away the cravings to smoke.
  • To be in control of your smoking habit.
  • To effectively use mental and emotional strategies to become a confident non-smoker.
  • To participate in a skilful blend of information exchange, guidance and therapeutic techniques to create a permanent behavioural exchange.
  • To become aware of the real drivers of your smoking habit and to develop alternative coping strategies.

Most smokers will say that they are addicted to nicotine but they misuse the
 term addicted. People who are truly addicted to a substance need to have
 that substance to stop going into withdrawal. I am speaking of dealing with
 those symptoms to an addiction that can be life-threatening in some cases. I have worked with quit smoking
 as well as other addictions and the difference between them is huge.

When one stops smoking cigarettes or other nicotine based substances, they may become irritable, feel as if something is missing, feel uncomfortable or feel a desperate urge to light a 
cigarette because that is what they do after a meal, or when they go to the toilet or have a coffee.

How can Hypnotherapy help you to stop smoking? 

  • Hypnotherapy in surrey can help your motivation and to gain serious willpower to quit smoking.
  • Clinical hypnotherapy techniques are much more likely to help you quit smoking rather than by using willpower alone.
  • It also provides an opportunity for you to see yourself as feeling great and a confident non-smoker.
  • The hypnotherapist will teach you ways to relaxation techniques that help with stress/anxiety that makes you reach out for a cigarette in the first place.
  • Self- hypnosis is also taught that can use to feel calm and in control and not giving your control to a cigarette stick.

You will also keep a record of your progress as you go through the stages of stop smoking (writing in a journal):

  1. Think about the reasons why you started to smoke in the first place, why you keep doing so and further where are you likely to smoke.
  2. Managing your triggers like going to the gym, keep busy, take deep slow breaths, get your family and friends to support you and finally keep the reasons why you quit in the first place in a note in your wallet to remind yourself your motivation.
  3. On the day you have quit avoiding temptation get support and handling the stress will make this an easier process.
  4. Relax and get plenty of sleep.

Once you have stop smoking, you will look back at the money, energy, time and life you have wasted on this habit.

Call me, Andrea Smith to find out more about how Clinical Hypnotherapy can help, so that you can finally being able to breath easier because you have Quit Smoking.