Personal development is a lifelong process of working on our individual qualities, behaviours and feelings to help us achieve our goals and live the life we desire. For some of us this is an easy process but for others, it is difficult to find what is ‘missing’ in our lives. We may find it difficult to recognise the patterns of habits and behaviours that stop us from achieving our goals.
Many of us have self-destructive behaviours that undermine our ability to achieve our goals. They are learnt over time and are often associated with negative thoughts about ourselves. They may make us feel low and unmotivated, they may represent that voice in your head saying, ‘I can’t do it.’
Personal development is important. It doesn’t have to be about progressing in your career or running a successful business; it can just as easily be about obtaining balance in your life, having healthy positive relationships, or having the strength to create a new life for yourself.
If you are struggling with personal development and want to break the cycle of negative thoughts that may be sabotaging your efforts, Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (CBT) and hypnosis is a great way to be focused and formulate your goals while changing negative thought patterns.
Generally, we all believe that achieving success in life is difficult, and failure is easy. Our language confirms this belief – we strive for success, we climb mountains, we believe that achieving our goals is a challenge.
If we already have this belief when we embark on personal development, is it any wonder that it feels so easy to fail?
Of course, some things are difficult. Quitting smoking, losing weight, breaking habits and behaviours that have become embedded over time. Failure can also become a habit, those self-destructive thoughts that say, ‘I will never quit smoking because I’m addicted’ or ‘I will never lose weight because I comfort eat.’
Therefore before we even give ourselves a chance at success, our subconscious is already doing its best to make us fail.
So if you are serious about personal development, you need to break the habits that set you up for failure, recognise when those behaviours are sabotaging your plans, and then focus on positive and achievable goals that will help you view success as easy.
This is where CBT with hypnosis can be a powerful tool to help change the way you think, feel, and behave. It can help you understand when those past negative thoughts and patterns are affecting you NOW, and teach you how to get rid of these feelings and focus on positive thoughts instead.
CBT and clinical hypnosis are highly effective at with personal development in the following key areas:
Clinical hypnosis programmes are tailored to suit the individual, their needs and goals, and the issues they are struggling with. It has been proven to help people remove the restraints that are holding them back and motivate them to find the success that they desire, and motivate them even further to live their life in a positive and constructive manner.
It is more than important in today’s world to learn more about yourself, know how your emotions work and manage them in everyday settings. Changeable times and rapid developing circumstances have created a cascade of emotional issues. There has been an increase in anxiety disorders, panic attacks, depression, anger issues and stress related problems. These emotional difficulties have made presenting psychological support and information the appropriate way very valuable.
Personal development is something all of us can embrace; just make sure that you provide yourself with the right conditions to make it a success.
If you would like to talk through your thoughts and feelings about personal development, book a free 30 minute consultation with me here.
Every year we make New Years Resolutions and every year by the end January we fail to keep up with them. For your New Years Resolutions to work you need to develop healthy habits, positive thoughts and improve your self-confidence.
Self-confidence is the key to making other NY Resolutions stick.
With great self-confidence, we will believe that we can achieve our goals whether that’s to stop smoking, lose weight, find a new job or run a marathon. Therefore before you set yourself a challenge that could easily result in a relapse, let’s look at improving your self-confidence first.
Relapsing is when your brain defaults to what you do normally – habits and behaviours – and says “oh well, never mind”. Unfortunately, setbacks like this can result in negative feelings and depression. So instead of setting ourselves up for a fall, if we address those deep rooted behaviours and habits first we can build our self-confidence and increase our chances of success.
Creating new behaviours and habits to substitute the old ways of thinking will help you take control of your New Years Resolutions.
If you want to explore a therapy to help you boost your self-confidence, hypnotherapy for confidence is a highly effective way to change negative habits and behaviours and thereby increase your chances of achieving all kinds of goals and resolutions.
Here are some self-reflective tips that can give your self-confidence a boost and help you understand how you can succeed with your new year’s goals. Write down your answers on a piece of paper:
Your brain has a way to re-inventing itself and those positive habits and behaviours you wrote down above can become the default response when you meet other challenges. Instead of relapsing into old habits and behaviours you can have the power and control!
Here are 7 steps for changing the way you think:
By focusing on actionable SMART goals and measuring them with the success you have achieved you will create a positive focus and a feedback loop. This will help motivate you to take the actionable steps week by week and create habits and behaviours long-term.
You will feel motivated, positive as you complete each step, and this will boost your confidence and self-esteem.
Understanding yourself will minimise your weaknesses and strengthen your resolve to stay focused and driven to daily enjoy your accomplishments. Finding a mentor or a therapist to help you to stay motivated, goal focused and on track can also improve your confidence and wellbeing.
An important thing to remember is to be patient with yourself, self-confidence and esteem is a step by step process and practice.
How do you deal with growing old?
Adjusting to the passing years and “senior citizen” status can be quite a challenge. People often focus on the physical aspects of growing old but, in some ways, adapting emotionally and mentally can be even more important.
The good news is that with the right approach, you can be motivated to take on new tasks and live your life with energy and vitality.
I help clients to continue to learn and grow as they get older, so their life changing is made easier. As an example Michael talked to me about his challenges he next birthday brings:
“I hesitate to tell people my age or that its my birthday because they might get the wrong idea that I am growing old and giving up. They might begin to feel sorry for me and I would not want that to happen.
But I am not giving up. I am moving on ahead…”
Growing old brings inevitable changes but many of these changes are positive. Age brings increased resourced of experienced, perspective and wisdom.
On the negative side, other people can have a constrained view about what is possible for older people. That’s why it’s important that we live our own life according to our own values and capabilities to experience as much growth as we can, as long as we can.
The following poem by Terry Q titled “Adjusting to passing years” sums this up well for me:
I thirst much sooner quicker now
Tire faster… work much less –
Not allowed, restrained by those
Who so much care for me.
I tread the paths much slower now
breathe a bit more heavy edge
hover in still shadows watching
waiting for a slip in chance
for something safe permissible
a 70-year old may do.
hawk-like they watch my every move
Polite, concerned, considerate
my indiscretions barrier bound
I bow, I smile quiet step aside.
They really care for me, I know
and that is what really matters
Not bored or helpless whining sad
My life cup filled to overflow
All of me is there full there
and I too care for them my ways
I care for them I really do
that is what also matters.
I am not a senior citizen but none of us are as young as we were! I seek to age with as much wisdom and grace as possible and to this end I have developed practices to help myself and my clients continue to learn and grow.
So I make sure to try new things and focus on the good aspects of getting old.
I look for good examples of people staying active whilst getting old. Some of these are celebrities (like Rod Stewart or Mick Jagger!) but others are friends or members of my own family. They remind me of my future and that there is always hope.
I have made plans for my future and I continue to adapt these over time. I learn something new every month, I help out at a charity shop a few days of the week, I travel regularly to meet my friends that I have not seen in years etc.
I also read a lot and know what to expect with my ageing process and made plans for my eventual death, meaning all of it is less scary to me.
Being positive and grateful of the full life I have led is one of the main things I start my day with.
By doing some form of exercise everyday (which could be as simple as a walk round the block and eating healthily) I have been able to keep healthy in mind and body.
If you are reading this and are feeling old, drawn, tired all the time and less energy, remember this:
Ageing is not ‘lost youth’ but a new stage of opportunity and strength.
Hypnotherapy can help you get feel more energetic, cultivate positive thoughts and manage the ageing process with optimism and grace.
Contact me to find out how hypnotherapy can help you feel confident and help you on the next stage of your journey.
Book your free 15-minute phone consultation with me: http://bit.ly/1GG130U
Never give up on your dreams
Most people don’t believe in themselves and find it difficult to think big. When things get tough they often give up on their dreams and don’t achieve the things they are capable of.
But I want people never to give up on themselves. I want them to be positive and resilient, live a full life and be able to achieve success with their goals.
To illustrate, I will tell you a story about Puddles, the frog.
Puddles was a handsome prince that had been turned into a frog by a wicked witch. A lesser frog would have given up but Puddles always believed in himself.
A princess came around. She saw the handsome “prince” in him and agreed to his request to kiss him…mmmuaaaaahh!
Puddles thought that he would live happily ever after!
But real life is not always as simple and easy as a fairy tale. And sometime later, one afternoon while he was swimming in the Royal lake, Puddles had a rather scary encounter with a hungry stork.
Other frogs would have lost out in that encounter but not our Puddles. Despite facing what seemed like an impossible situation, Puddles focussed on what he could do, took action and saved the day for himself.
And therein lies a lesson for the rest of us.
After his escape from the stork, Puddles got back to his palace and began to think about how he could make himself helpful to others.
He thought about the many people he knew who did not like the way they looked and felt about themselves. Ugly frogs in themselves they were looking at rather than the handsome princes/princesses they really were.
In a flash of enlightenment he knew what he had to do.
To reach out and help people see themselves as they really were, he decided to become a Therapist.
He did that…and he hasn’t looked back since!
I am Andrea and I am not a frog…or a prince!….but in some ways my story is similar.
I faced really difficult times in my life when I almost felt like giving up. But I was able to persevere and overcome challenges…even when circumstances seemed really bad.
And these difficult times provided deep motivation for me to become a clinical hypnotherapist and to help other people. I now help my clients through difficult times so they never give up and can continue to pursue their dreams.
“Tell me about it! I’m listening!”
I know that sometimes unpleasant things in life happen that are quite beyond your control. Other people can treat you badly. People around you may be disregarding you or taking you for granted. Your relationships can turn bitter, sometimes through no fault of your own. Situations at home or at work can be oppressive and even scary.
How do we deal with these issues?
We have to start by looking after ourselves and sometimes that means getting help from a professional. Its only when we are happy with ourselves that we are able to help others.
We can then go about helping relatives, friends and maybe even strangers see and bring out the really beautiful part of themselves.
Sometimes we try to cope through hard times by ourselves but often its much more powerful and effective to reach out for help.
A professional clinical hypnotherapist can provide empathy and support but, more importantly, the tools to help you see life’s challenges differently and to change bad habits and overcome fears that may have been holding you back.
If you want any information on how Clinical Hypnosis can help you be more confident, reach your goals believe in yourself and never give up, call me now or book your 15 minute free phone consultation http://bit.ly/1GG130U
Hypnotherapy can help you not just dream big but give you the confidence to pursue those dreams actively and achieve greater success in your life.
Are IBS symptoms restricting your life?
Irritable Bowel Syndrome symptoms affects the everyday life of thousands of people in the UK. Sadly, sufferers often live with the symptoms for years without finding either a proper diagnosis of IBS or a way of managing (let alone eliminating) those symptoms.
How can you tell if the symptoms of IBS are affecting your life?
Does your tummy often feel like it is churning and you have a cramping pain in your gut? Also you feel your anxiety/stress building and you need to be near a toilet all day?
The UK National Institute of Clinical Excellence advises GPs to check patients for IBS if they experience any of these “ABC” symptoms for six months or more:
• Abdominal pain or cramps
• Change in bowel movements – diarrhoea, constipation or both
There are other symptoms, which include excess wind and gas, nausea or tiredness that can indicate IBS.
So are you experiencing the symptoms of IBS and not sure where to turn? Have your seen GP’s, specialists, consultants, had blood tests, ultrasounds, sigmoidoscopy or colonoscopy etc?
Whilst experiencing the symptoms of IBS, you may at the same time feel anxious and that something is not right with your life.
This can be a message from your brain or from your tummy telling you that there is too much stress in your life.
But here is the good news. You can learn to deal your problem and live your life free from anxiety and stress that exacerbates your IBS symptoms.
Please take heart!
Clinical hypnosis can help you reduce your anxiety and stress, and you can learn techniques to live your life free from the pain of IBS. This does not involve long term medication, or have any side-effects and can be tailored to suit each person and their specific needs.
Adam was a client of mine with IBS and here is his story:
I have suffered from IBS since I was a young boy. I had been to my GP many times, had various tests, and cut out various foods. But still my IBS flared up all my life. I am 30 years old now and feel that, until recently, I have not lived at all since I needed to be near a loo all the time.
My GP told me there was nothing physically wrong with me and suggested I look for alternative therapies such as hypnosis. After researching IBS further on the Internet I found Andrea and I contacted her to get help. It felt like taking a leap into the unknown but I emailed her to see if she could help.
After a couple of emails I booked an initial hypnotherapy session. During this session, we discussed my IBS history and figured out that I was not born with the symptoms of IBS (cramping or tummy ache). At around the age of 10, my IBS symptoms started: there was a lot of bloating and discomfort with my digestive system. Our sessions helped me recognise and deal with a personal trauma I’d had around the age of 6.
I was not sure what to expect from the hypnotherapy session but I went to our appointment with an open mind. Initially I found hypnotherapy a strange experience but I soon got used to the relaxation and guided meditation. The very next day, the toilet routine that had dictated majority of my life virtually disappeared altogether. More and more improvements and life adjustments came with each additional session.
After a total of four sessions and a follow up, my life has radically changed for the better. I now do things I could never do before and I am enjoying life and all its aspects”. Contacting Andrea was the best decision I have ever made.
Just remember to be open minded and willing to take that step!
If you are worried about your IBS or want to more information about how hypnotherapy can help you with your problem, please contact me on 07967151790 or email me: [email protected] to book your free 15 minute phone consultation with me.
I look forward to speaking with you!
Andrea Smith (MBPsS)
The very first few weeks without a cigarette are the hardest without hypnotherapy.
Your body is fighting your addiction to cigarettes.
You can get through the physical cravings for a cigarette.
Find the right method that works for you.
Talking to the right professional makes a huge difference to your chances to quit for Good and stay that way.
Quitting for good works if you Believe that you can do it.
Clinical Hypnotherapy has been successfully used to quit smoking because it gets right to the source of your smoking habit. Hypnotherapy is all about helping you make the changes in your habits and behaviours, but it does not make you do what you do not want to do.
“Change takes place when people take action. Real change takes place when people persist in taking action over a period of time”.
Why would you go to a hypnotherapist to stop smoking?
Most smokers will say that they are addicted to nicotine but they misuse the term addicted. People who are truly addicted to a substance need to have that substance to stop going into withdrawal. I am speaking of dealing with those symptoms to an addiction that can be life-threatening in some cases. I have worked with quit smoking as well as other addictions and the difference between them is huge.
When one stops smoking cigarettes or other nicotine based substances, they may become irritable, feel as if something is missing, feel uncomfortable or feel a desperate urge to light a cigarette because that is what they do after a meal, or when they go to the toilet or have a coffee.
You will also keep a record of your progress as you go through the stages of stop smoking (writing in a journal):
Once you have stop smoking, you will look back at the money, energy, time and life you have wasted on this habit.
Call me, Andrea Smith to find out more about how Clinical Hypnotherapy can help, so that you can finally being able to breath easier because you have Quit Smoking.