More than 80% of the world’s population wrestles with low self-esteem and self-confidence.
Perhaps it is the nature of our ever increasing fast-paced living, increasing tech-induced disconnection from genuine, healthy relationships, highly competitive work lives, or social media convincing us that everyone’s lives are perfect except ours – whatever the reasons, low self-esteem now seems like an epidemic.
The good news is, if you are one of the majority of individuals suffering from low self-esteem, it doesn’t have to stay that way.
Identifying the Problem
First, what is low self esteem?
Low self-esteem is having a poor opinion of yourself. People suffering from low self-esteem often experience feelings of dislike and even disgust with themselves, often struggling with habits, behaviors, and attitudes that they do not like but feel hopeless to change.
Individuals with low self-esteem feel like the world is against them, that no one likes them, and that things will always go wrong. They tend to see themselves as victims of bad luck and a hostile world, and are convinced that nothing will ever change.
As a result, individuals with low self-esteem shy away from sharing their thoughts, trying new things, and joining in activities. They tend to be very needy, always seeking the approval and affirmation of those around them, yet when receiving it, are likely to scoff at it or disbelieve its sincerity.
This failure to participate and thrive in a social environments and life in general then feeds their low self-esteem and creates a vicious, downward cycle.
Clearly, this is not a healthy way to live and it hurts everyone. Low self-esteem in relationships, regardless of what type, can make the relationship feel like a burden, can lead to fights and complications over the smallest issues, and can ultimately sabotage and destroy the relationship all together.
If any of these habits or attitudes sound familiar, you may be struggling with low self-esteem. If you suspect you do, you can take a self confidence test to help you assess where you are.
If you do struggle with low self-esteem, there is hope! You can learn how to overcome low self-esteem!
Improving self-esteem is an ongoing process and a constant check on your thoughts and attitudes. As you learn how to build self-esteem, just keep in mind that these new steps and habits need to become a way of life and are not just a quick, one-time fix. And be patient with yourself!
Now, here are a few tips on how to improve self-esteem:
If you struggle with low self-esteem but feel like you need help getting a start on changing your outlook, there are many methods that can help, including hypnotherapy and seeing a behaviour therapist.
I am a Qualified Clinical Hypnotherapist and Cognitive Behaviour Therapist. Contact me today for a free session to learn more about my process and how we can get you onto the road to higher self-esteem.
If you want to find out how effective hypnotherapy for giving up smoking is, congratulations you’ve come to right place! But more importantly, if you’ve made the decision to stop smoking for good, you’ve taken the first step to success.
However much pressure you may be under to give up smoking from family and friends if you’re not ready to quit you’ll find it very difficult. Once you’ve made that decision for yourself to give up, you increase your chances of success dramatically.
I know that if you’re exploring hypnosis to give up smoking, you’ve already come to that decision and are probably exploring the various methods available. Broadly speaking there are two smoking cessation methods used: gradual smoking cessation, perhaps using nicotine replacement therapy, and cold turkey (more on this in this post on Is Cold Turkey The Best Way To Quit Smoking?).
However, neither method tackles the behaviours and habits you’ve formed around smoking; the reason you reach for the cigarettes when you feel stressed, or the associations you may have between smoking and doing other things like having a drink with friends, or a midmorning coffee. These habits and behaviours are just as controlling as your nicotine addiction and this is where hypnotherapy can really help; changing the thoughts and feelings you have that trigger a desire to smoke, helping you take control of your responses to these and increasing the chance of giving up smoking for good.
Hypnosis is described as a state of altered consciousness; when you are hypnotised you are in a state of deep relaxation and can make changes you desire.
Hypnosis is used in the treatment for various psychological issues such as giving up smoking, weight loss, panic attacks, low self-esteem etc. The collaboration between the client and therapist helps to create change in client’s habits and behaviours through hypnosis when the mind is open to positive suggestions. At no time do you lose control of your actions during clinical hypnotherapy, instead you will have a sense of being in complete control and able to make good decisions for yourself and your health?
Hypnotherapy is a popular and effective treatment for stopping smoking. Typically a course of hypnotherapy for giving up smoking will include:
Hypnosis for smoking helps clients with their unhelpful thoughts and put the smoking habit into perspective. They are encouraged to see the damage to their health that smoking causes and the long-term consequences of their habit.
Some of us are unaware that our bodies will start repairing the damage after quitting smoking very quickly:
While these physical improvements and health benefits are greatly desired, the habits that you have developed from smoking over time can still be very hard to break.
Hypnotherapy for giving up smoking can be used alongside a gradual smoking cessation therapy such as nicotine patches, or if you wish to go cold turkey. Whichever smoking cessation method you plan to use it’s advisable to talk to a clinical hypnotherapist early on so they can help support you through the process. This may mean addressing key issues that are underlying your smoking habit, and resolving these so that you have a much better chance of successfully quitting for good.
Many people come to a hypnotherapy thinking it is a quick or a magic fix treatment for their smoking habit. For some people, just one session is enough to quit smoking but others need a few sessions to achieve success from the harmful effects of smoking.
The ultimate goal of hypnotherapy is you taking the control back from your smoking habit or addiction.
If you have any questions about hypnosis for smoking or would like to speak to me about your specific issues, either leave a comment below or you can email me on [email protected] or call +44 (0)796 715 1790.
“After three sessions I have successfully stopped smoking after 27 years. Through the combination of hypnotherapy and NLP that Andrea specialises in I now have effective coping strategies in place for the difficult moments and situations that inevitably arise. I feel confident to refer to myself now as a non-smoker, which was something I would have never even contemplated in the past. You have to want to stop smoking but when you are really ready this is a really effective way to do it.” – Miranda B
Most people ask what is hypnosis and how does it work? Hypnosis can be described as a natural state of mind (at an unconscious level) that alternates between the person’s alertness and wakefulness. Everything that has occurred in a person’s life is present in the unconscious mind, whether it is real or imagined. You can be in an everyday trance state or hypnotic state when you are driving a car on your familiar route to work or when you relaxing listening to a lovely piece of music or just before you drift off to sleep.
To answer the question what hypnotherapy involves, it uses different techniques for therapeutic reasons and works at the unconscious level of a person’s mind where the individual’s desires, decisions and long-term habits are located. Trusting and being present with the person who is your therapist giving you hypnotherapy is one of the factors required for the therapeutic session to be successful. The hypnosis state is a deep state of mental relaxation, similar to being in a meditative state, in which the client becomes aware of their own inner world more than in their normal conscious or waking state.
People fear the unknown and for this reason, some people worry that during hypnotherapy the therapist will control their mind, and perhaps make them do things they don’t want to. This is a myth that comes from watching hypnotherapists on TV or entertaining an audience at an event, it’s not the same thing but I can understand why you may be worried about it. Instead with Cognitive Behaviour Hypnotherapy, there is a collaboration between the therapist and the client, this brings a level of trust and enhances the therapy session. It is this deep state of relaxation where you are most responsive to suggestions and hence you can make changes to your habits and behaviours that may be causing your problems.
I have people ask me regularly whether I am going to make them ‘cluck like a chicken’ or ‘dance around the room’. Stage hypnotists like Darren Brown do get receptive people do ridiculous things but the people that step on the stage are willing to partake in these activities. All hypnosis is ‘self”- hypnosis and the hypnotherapist is a guide to your inner mind and the rest of the responsibility is on the client who wishes to be hypnotised as it is a collaborative process. Clinical hypnotherapy will not make you do what you don’t want to do and you are in total control of yourself during the sessions.
Does the idea that all your secrets will come out during these sessions fill you with fear? You are in control of your mind during the sessions and if you are asked a question that you wish not to answer just “say no”.
If you do feel as if you have fallen asleep during the therapy session, don’t worry your subconscious mind is still hearing my suggestions and you are able to make the changes in your habits and behaviours. Each and every person has the insight and knowledge within themselves to recognise their issues and with the therapist support they go deeper within and find the root causes of these issues/problems. You will discover techniques and develop skills to access your subconscious mind and change habits and behaviours that cause the problem. Together with positive suggestions and strategies to stay in control you can change how you perceive the problems and let go of the hold the cause of this issue has over you.
Hypnosis requires the cooperation and motivation on the part of the client, and this cooperation enhances the client’s experience in their unconscious mind level. Hence Hypnosis/hypnotherapy has been effective in the treatment of anxiety. The following techniques for coping with anxiety can be greatly enhanced when a client has undergone hypnosis sessions:
Hypnosis can help you change your response to situations that cause you anxiety so that you cope with them better and they affect you less. Understandably you may be concerned about using this type of therapy to treat your anxiety, but because it addresses the way you respond to stressful situations rather than only the symptoms of your anxiety, it can be a very powerful tool.
If you like to talk to me in confidence about your anxiety, how hypnosis may be able to help and to get an idea of whether you feel that we can build a trusting client/therapist relationship, please get in touch. +44 (0)796 715 1790 or [email protected]
How do you deal with growing old?
Adjusting to the passing years and “senior citizen” status can be quite a challenge. People often focus on the physical aspects of growing old but, in some ways, adapting emotionally and mentally can be even more important.
The good news is that with the right approach, you can be motivated to take on new tasks and live your life with energy and vitality.
I help clients to continue to learn and grow as they get older, so their life-changing is made easier. As an example Michael talked to me about the challenges he next birthday brings:
“I hesitate to tell people my age or that its my birthday because they might get the wrong idea that I am growing old and giving up. They might begin to feel sorry for me and I would not want that to happen.
But I am not giving up. I am moving on ahead…”
Growing old brings inevitable changes but many of these changes are positive. Age brings increased resourced of experienced, perspective and wisdom.
On the negative side, other people can have a constrained view about what is possible for older people. That’s why it’s important that we live our own life according to our own values and capabilities to experience as much growth as we can, as long as we can.
The following poem by Terry Q titled “Adjusting to passing years” sums this up well for me:
I thirst much sooner quicker now
Tire faster… work much less –
Not allowed, restrained by those
Who so much care for me.
I tread the paths much slower now
breathe a bit more heavy edge
hover in still shadows watching
waiting for a slip in chance
for something safe permissible
a 70-year old may do.
hawk-like they watch my every move
Polite, concerned, considerate
my indiscretions barrier bound
I bow, I smile quiet step aside.
They really care for me, I know
and that is what really matters
Not bored or helpless whining sad
My life cup filled to overflow
All of me is there full there
and I too care for them my ways
I care for them I really do
that is what also matters.
I am not a senior citizen but none of us is as young as we were! I seek to age with as much wisdom and grace as possible and to this end, I have developed practices to help myself and my clients continue to learn and grow.
So I make sure to try new things and focus on the good aspects of getting old.
I look for good examples of people staying active whilst getting old. Some of these are celebrities (like Rod Stewart or Mick Jagger!) but others are friends or members of my own family. They remind me of my future and that there is always hope.
I have made plans for my future and I continue to adapt these over time. I learn something new every month, I help out at a charity shop for a few days of the week, I travel regularly to meet my friends that I have not seen in years etc.
I also read a lot and know what to expect with my ageing process and made plans for my eventual death, meaning all of it is less scary to me.
Being positive and grateful for the full life I have led is one of the main things I start my day with.
By doing some form of exercise every day (which could be as simple as a walk around the block and eating healthily) I have been able to keep healthy in mind and body.
If you are reading this and are feeling old, drawn, tired all the time and less energy, remember this:
Ageing is not ‘lost youth’ but a new stage of opportunity and strength.
Hypnotherapy can help you get to feel more energetic, cultivate positive thoughts and manage the ageing process with optimism and grace.
Contact me to find out how hypnotherapy can help you feel confident and help you with the next stage of your journey.
Book your free 30-minute phone consultation with me: http://bit.ly/1GG130U
Never give up on your dreams
Most people don’t believe in themselves and find it difficult to think big. When things get tough they often give up on their dreams and don’t achieve the things they are capable of.
But I want people never to give up on themselves. I want them to be positive and resilient, live a full life and be able to achieve success with their goals.
To illustrate, I will tell you a story about Puddles, the frog.
Puddles was a handsome prince that had been turned into a frog by a wicked witch. A lesser frog would have given up but Puddles always believed in himself.
A princess came around. She saw the handsome “prince” in him and agreed to his request to kiss him…mmmuaaaaahh!
Puddles thought that he would live happily ever after!
But real life is not always as simple and easy as a fairy tale. And sometime later, one afternoon while he was swimming in the Royal lake, Puddles had a rather scary encounter with a hungry stork.
Other frogs would have lost out in that encounter but not our Puddles. Despite facing what seemed like an impossible situation, Puddles focussed on what he could do, took action and saved the day for himself.
And therein lies a lesson for the rest of us.
After his escape from the stork, Puddles got back to his palace and began to think about how he could make himself helpful to others.
He thought about the many people he knew who did not like the way they looked and felt about themselves. Ugly frogs in themselves they were looking at rather than the handsome princes/princesses they really were.
In a flash of enlightenment he knew what he had to do.
To reach out and help people see themselves as they really were, he decided to become a Therapist.
He did that…and he hasn’t looked back since!
I am Andrea and I am not a frog…or a prince!….but in some ways my story is similar.
I faced really difficult times in my life when I almost felt like giving up. But I was able to persevere and overcome challenges…even when circumstances seemed really bad.
And these difficult times provided deep motivation for me to become a clinical hypnotherapist and to help other people. I now help my clients through difficult times so they never give up and can continue to pursue their dreams.
“Tell me about it! I’m listening!”
I know that sometimes unpleasant things in life happen that are quite beyond your control. Other people can treat you badly. People around you may be disregarding you or taking you for granted. Your relationships can turn bitter, sometimes through no fault of your own. Situations at home or at work can be oppressive and even scary.
How do we deal with these issues?
We have to start by looking after ourselves and sometimes that means getting help from a professional. Its only when we are happy with ourselves that we are able to help others.
We can then go about helping relatives, friends and maybe even strangers see and bring out the really beautiful part of themselves.
Sometimes we try to cope through hard times by ourselves but often its much more powerful and effective to reach out for help.
A professional clinical hypnotherapist can provide empathy and support but, more importantly, the tools to help you see life’s challenges differently and to change bad habits and overcome fears that may have been holding you back.
If you want any information on how Clinical Hypnosis can help you be more confident, reach your goals believe in yourself and never give up, call me now or book your 15 minute free phone consultation http://bit.ly/1GG130U
Hypnotherapy can help you not just dream big but give you the confidence to pursue those dreams actively and achieve greater success in your life.
Are IBS symptoms restricting your life?
Irritable Bowel Syndrome symptoms affects the everyday life of thousands of people in the UK. Sadly, sufferers often live with the symptoms for years without finding either a proper diagnosis of IBS or a way of managing (let alone eliminating) those symptoms.
How can you tell if the symptoms of IBS are affecting your life?
Does your tummy often feel like it is churning and you have a cramping pain in your gut? Also you feel your anxiety/stress building and you need to be near a toilet all day?
The UK National Institute of Clinical Excellence advises GPs to check patients for IBS if they experience any of these “ABC” symptoms for six months or more:
• Abdominal pain or cramps
• Change in bowel movements – diarrhoea, constipation or both
There are other symptoms, which include excess wind and gas, nausea or tiredness that can indicate IBS.
So are you experiencing the symptoms of IBS and not sure where to turn? Have your seen GP’s, specialists, consultants, had blood tests, ultrasounds, sigmoidoscopy or colonoscopy etc?
Whilst experiencing the symptoms of IBS, you may at the same time feel anxious and that something is not right with your life.
This can be a message from your brain or from your tummy telling you that there is too much stress in your life.
But here is the good news. You can learn to deal your problem and live your life free from anxiety and stress that exacerbates your IBS symptoms.
Please take heart!
Clinical hypnosis can help you reduce your anxiety and stress, and you can learn techniques to live your life free from the pain of IBS. This does not involve long-term medication, or have any side-effects and can be tailored to suit each person and their specific needs.
Adam was a client of mine with IBS and here is his story:
I have suffered from IBS since I was a young boy. I had been to my GP many times, had various tests, and cut out various foods. But still, my IBS flared up all my life. I am 30 years old now and feel that, until recently, I have not lived at all since I needed to be near a loo all the time.
My GP told me there was nothing physically wrong with me and suggested I look for alternative therapies such as hypnosis. After researching IBS further on the Internet I found Andrea and I contacted her to get help. It felt like taking a leap into the unknown but I emailed her to see if she could help.
After a couple of emails, I booked an initial hypnotherapy session. During this session, we discussed my IBS history and figured out that I was not born with the symptoms of IBS (cramping or tummy ache). At around the age of 10, my IBS symptoms started: there was a lot of bloating and discomfort with my digestive system. Our sessions helped me recognise and deal with a personal trauma I’d had around the age of 6.
I was not sure what to expect from the hypnotherapy session but I went to our appointment with an open mind. Initially, I found hypnotherapy a strange experience but I soon got used to the relaxation and guided meditation. The very next day, the toilet routine that had dictated the majority of my life virtually disappeared altogether. More and more improvements and life adjustments came with each additional session.
After a total of four sessions and a follow-up, my life has radically changed for the better. I now do things I could never do before and I am enjoying life and all its aspects”. Contacting Andrea was the best decision I have ever made.
Just remember to be open-minded and willing to take that step!
If you are worried about your IBS or want to more information about how hypnotherapy can help you with your problem, please contact me on 07967151790 or email me: [email protected] to book your free 30-minute phone consultation with me.
I look forward to speaking with you!
Andrea Smith (MBPsS)
The very first few weeks without a cigarette are the hardest without hypnotherapy.
Your body is fighting your addiction to cigarettes.
You can get through the physical cravings for a cigarette.
Find the right method that works for you.
Talking to the right professional makes a huge difference to your chances to quit for Good and stay that way.
Quitting for good works if you Believe that you can do it.
Clinical Hypnotherapy has been successfully used to quit smoking because it gets right to the source of your smoking habit. Hypnotherapy is all about helping you make the changes in your habits and behaviours, but it does not make you do what you do not want to do.
“Change takes place when people take action. Real change takes place when people persist in taking action over a period of time”.
Why would you go to a hypnotherapist to stop smoking?
Most smokers will say that they are addicted to nicotine but they misuse the term addicted. People who are truly addicted to a substance need to have that substance to stop going into withdrawal. I am speaking of dealing with those symptoms to an addiction that can be life-threatening in some cases. I have worked with quit smoking as well as other addictions and the difference between them is huge.
When one stops smoking cigarettes or other nicotine based substances, they may become irritable, feel as if something is missing, feel uncomfortable or feel a desperate urge to light a cigarette because that is what they do after a meal, or when they go to the toilet or have a coffee.
You will also keep a record of your progress as you go through the stages of stop smoking (writing in a journal):
Once you have stop smoking, you will look back at the money, energy, time and life you have wasted on this habit.
Call me, Andrea Smith to find out more about how Clinical Hypnotherapy can help, so that you can finally being able to breath easier because you have Quit Smoking.