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Hypnosis For Personal Development: Is This What You Need?

personal development, hypnotherapy, cognitive behaviour therapy

Personal development is a lifelong process of working on our individual qualities, behaviours and feelings to help us achieve our goals and live the life we desire. For some of us this is an easy process but for others, it is difficult to find what is ‘missing’ in our lives. We may find it difficult to recognise the patterns of habits and behaviours that stop us from achieving our goals.

Many of us have self-destructive behaviours that undermine our ability to achieve our goals. They are learnt over time and are often associated with negative thoughts about ourselves. They may make us feel low and unmotivated, they may represent  that voice in your head saying, ‘I can’t do it.’

Personal development is important. It doesn’t have to be about progressing in your career or running a successful business; it can just as easily be about obtaining balance in your life, having healthy positive relationships, or having the strength to create a new life for yourself.

If you are struggling with personal development and want to break the cycle of negative thoughts that may be sabotaging your efforts, Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (CBT) and hypnosis is a great way to be focused and formulate your goals while changing negative thought patterns.

How Does CBT And Hypnosis Work?

Generally, we all believe that achieving success in life is difficult, and failure is easy. Our language confirms this belief – we strive for success, we climb mountains, we believe that achieving our goals is a challenge.

If we already have this belief when we embark on personal development, is it any wonder that it feels so easy to fail?

Of course, some things are difficult. Quitting smoking, losing weight, breaking habits and behaviours that have become embedded over time. Failure can also become a habit, those self-destructive thoughts that say, ‘I will never quit smoking because I’m addicted’ or ‘I will never lose weight because I comfort eat.’

Therefore before we even give ourselves a chance at success, our subconscious is already doing its best to make us fail.

So if you are serious about personal development, you need to break the habits that set you up for failure, recognise when those behaviours are sabotaging your plans, and then focus on positive and achievable goals that will help you view success as easy.

This is where CBT with hypnosis can be a powerful tool to help change the way you think, feel, and behave. It can help you understand when those past negative thoughts and patterns are affecting you NOW, and teach you how to get rid of these feelings and focus on positive thoughts instead.

CBT and clinical hypnosis are highly effective at with personal development in the following key areas:

  • Confidence building
  • Fears and phobias
  • Breaking bad habits
  • Stress and anxiety
  • Weight loss
  • Panic attacks and overcoming anxiety
  • Boosting self-confidence
  • Emotional upset
  • Relationship advice
  • Personal and career development
  • Goal setting and achievement

Clinical hypnosis programmes are tailored to suit the individual, their needs and goals, and the issues they are struggling with. It has been proven to help people remove the restraints that are holding them back and motivate them to find the success that they desire, and motivate them even further to live their life in a positive and constructive manner.

It is more than important in today’s world to learn more about yourself, know how your emotions work and manage them in everyday settings. Changeable times and rapid developing circumstances have created a cascade of emotional issues. There has been an increase in anxiety disorders, panic attacks, depression, anger issues and stress related problems. These emotional difficulties have made presenting psychological support and information the appropriate way very valuable.

Personal development is something all of us can embrace; just make sure that you provide yourself with the right conditions to make it a success.

If you would like to talk through your thoughts and feelings about personal development, book a free 30 minute consultation with me here.

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Can Hypnosis Really Stop Me Smoking For Life?

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Many people who have unsuccessfully tried other methods of giving up smoking are naturally sceptical about the effectiveness of hypnosis to stop smoking. I don’t blame you. If you’ve tried other smoking cessation approaches and still found yourself reaching for a packet of cigarettes, you will know that it’s not an easy habit to quit.

So what makes hypnosis effective, where other stop smoking methods fail? Read on to find out how this treatment works and whether it’s right for you.

How Hypnosis Stop You Smoking For Life

Hypnosis is a deep state of relaxation and focused attention, which a person goes in and out every day. This is when your subconscious mind is open to suggestions and ideas.

Health Implications Of Smoking

Everyone knows that smoking is bad for you, but if you’re smoker those warnings on the side of a cigarette packet only serve to make you feel more helpless about giving up. Let’s face it; it’s easy to not to think about the health implications when you don’t think you have the strength to quit.

During a hypnosis session, the clinical hypnotherapist will remind you that smoking can cause cancer and damage your health long-term. Suggestions and ideas can be reinforced during the session so that when you do read a health warning on a packet of cigarettes, instead of pretending it’s not there your subconscious mind will heighten your awareness and compel you to act.

Replacing The ‘Positive’ Aspects Of Smoking With Something Better

In most cases, smokers view the act of smoking as a positive influence, and this is programmed in your subconscious mind through the repetitive action of smoking.

You may feel smoking helps you:

  • Relieve your anxiety and boredom
  • Give you time-out from work or at home
  • Relax and help you concentrate
  • Feel confident when you are with friends
  • Deal with some uncomfortable thoughts and emotions
  • Helps you to fit in with your friends that smoke
  • Be in control of your weight as you will eat if you smoke
  • Keeps your hands busy
  • Reduces your stress and irritability

Your subconscious mind has become programmed to believe those smoking cigarettes will help make you feel better, reduce stress and any feelings of discomfort. After smoking for many years, smoking has now become this habit that has been repeated many times, reinforcing this positive association.

Hypnosis for smoking cessation works by reprogramming your subconscious mind so that smoking is not associated with positive things. Your therapist will also teach you ways to replace the feeling that smoking creates with healthier and better alternatives, for example by teaching you how to cope with stress or learn relaxation techniques that replace your smoking habit.

When Other Smoking Cessation Methods Have Failed

Typically hypnosis to stop smoking is used as a last resort when nothing else has worked. Often the reason that these methods have failed is because they don’t address the underlying issues of why someone smokes. Such as because they associate smoking with relaxation, or they always have a cigarette when they have a coffee or glass of wine.

Some of the methods people try first are –

  • Their willpower, but as they still think of themselves as smokers they force themselves to ‘stop’. If they ‘enjoy’ their cigarettes, then stopping creates a conflict within themselves which results in more stress and anxiety.
  • Cutting smoking down is another way that people try to quit but your body still has nicotine. So hours or days between cigarettes does not take away the cravings and the withdrawal that you will feel. You will count the hours between cigarettes and will eventually cave in and smoke more and more.
  • Nicotine patches and gum, e-cigarettes and medications do not reduce the nicotine in your body. But the habit and the cravings have not been addressed, and the reasons (emotional aspects of the smoking habit) for smoking also still exist.

With clinical hypnosis and cognitive behaviour therapy, you can change your habits and behaviours, and your unconscious mind will choose healthier options. Most of the time people smoke cigarettes because of the conditioned response to stimulation from their environment or a habit they cannot break.

Some Myths About Your Smoking Habit

And How To Overcome Them With Hypnosis And CBT

Most people believe in the stories or beliefs they tell themselves:

  • Withdrawal is difficult and I can’t cope with the cravings. When you smoke you imagine the pleasure it gives you and when you give up you start to crave that pleasure and don’t want the pain and misery of quitting. During a hypnosis session, you are given tools and techniques to get perspective on the habit and ways you can avoid slipping into the addictive trance state.
  • I cannot give up as I have failed before. Most people try the different methods to quit cigarettes and use hypnosis as their last port of call, but hypnosis helps them re-programme their subconscious thoughts, feelings and beliefs about their smoking habit so they then are in control of their behaviour.
  • I don’t have the willpower. Your motivation and willpower to quit smoking will be enhanced during the therapy session and you will get to know the real reason why you smoke and why you want to quit. You will view your behaviour with a different perspective and awareness of the impact cigarette smoking has had on your health. You will then feel free from the cravings and realise how smoking has affected your life and use the new found freedom to believe in yourself and be a happy and healthy non-smoker.
  • I’ve smoked for too long, it’s too late to give up. You realise that you cannot just stop smoking as you have been smoking for a long time. With the support and help of an experienced and accredited clinical hypnotherapist and cognitive behaviour therapist, you will come to the decision that smoking is harming your body and your subconscious will make changes that are permanent.

Sammy told her friend that her smoking habit was out of control. She was smoking 20 cigarettes a day for 35 years.

“I felt that if I had not given up smoking I would not have gotten over my chronic chest infection and breathlessness. Now I can breathe a little better and even walk up the stairs without stopping. My clothes smell nice and so does my breath. I had tried to give up smoking before but the cravings and the stress always made me smoke again. Now I feel free, it does not worry me if people smoke around me, I have started with some gentle exercise daily and I am saving the money I spent on cigarettes to go away in the summer next year. Hypnosis helped me gain clarity about where my life was and where I wanted to be. I am glad I did try clinical Hypnosis and CBT as I feel better than I ever felt before”

Find out more about using hypnosis to stop smoking here.

How Many Hypnosis Sessions Will I Need to Lose Weight, weight loss solutions

How Many Hypnosis Sessions Will I Need to Lose Weight?

How Many Hypnosis Sessions Will I Need to Lose Weight, weight loss solutionsGenerally, when a client comes to me for hypnosis for weight loss, it’s after struggling with diets and exercise plans and not seeing the desired results. While most diets and exercise regimes work in theory, in practice it can be very difficult.

Keeping on a restrictive diet is a challenge, and requires immense amounts of willpower and motivation. Similarly regularly exercising can also be hard to do, especially when there are so many other pressing activities we need get done during the day.

This is why hypnosis for weight loss can be so effective. It doesn’t replace a healthy diet or regular exercise – but it can help change the way you think about food and your body and help you achieve your goals.

I often think that it would be much better if clients came to me first before embarking on their weight loss plan. Then we can deal with those self-sabotaging thoughts, install positive behaviours, and maintain the motivation and energy to lose weight long term, right from the start.

However, whether someone uses hypnosis at the beginning of the weight loss plan, or comes to it after being unsuccessful, here I answer some common questions clients have about hypnosis for weight loss:

What happens during a hypnosis session and what does it feel like?

Every hypnosis session is tailored to the person’s individual needs, so experiences differ from person to person. Some of my clients feel calm and relaxed during our therapy sessions and some have experienced an increased state of awareness. While some daydream and others feel euphoric, still others feel as if they are asleep and wonder where the time went.

Regardless of how someone feels during a hypnosis session, it’s what happens afterwards that really counts! Typically, when a client has completed their first session they experience increased motivation and willpower with regards to their eating behaviours and are in control of their triggers for chocolate, sweets and fatty foods.

So how many hypnosis sessions will I need to lose weight?

Hypnosis works uniquely for each individual. When helping a person to lose weight, first it is important to reprogram the way they think about food, strengthen their resolve to eat healthily and not overeat. Clinical Hypnosis can help an overweight person lose weight by finding out what negative emotions are in play when they overeat. Why are they eating foods that emotional fulfil them, how does this affect their confidence and self-esteem, and how do they feel emotionally when they eat these unhealthy and junk foods? Hypnosis can help with the triggers that cause an individual to overeat, cravings for unhealthy foods, changing they way this person thinks and feels about their bodies and the way they perceive themselves.

The number of Clinical hypnosis sessions varies from person to person and can be determined during the initial assessment session. Normally a client will come each week for the first month to increase their willpower, release any emotional attachments to food and build their motivation to stay on goals to lose the excess weight they feel they have.

These sessions are extremely important at the beginning, then the sessions are tailored to the individual and their progress and goals to reach their desired weight. Often clients will come every alternate week until they have achieved their goals, reinforcing their positive behaviours and increasing motivation levels every time.

The client then moves on to the once a month protocol for support and maintenance to keep themselves focussed on their goals and desires what they want their ideal weight to be. Some group sessions are also provided to share their weight loss goals and have a supportive environment, the shared experience that keeps the motivation and progress going.

Why should you choose clinical hypnosis over other weight loss programs?

Hypnosis is a natural and long-term approach to obtain a healthy body image you desire. It helps you to be in control of what you eat, recognise when you feel emotional, stop you from reaching for those unhealthy foods. If your normal emotional response would have been in the past to eat junk foods when you felt sad, angry, frustrated or emotional, hypnosis will teach you how to manage this response in a healthy way.

When you go on a diet if feels like a chore and the negative effects are that our subconscious mind thinks we are starving and this feels uncomfortable. After a while you will feel under pressure to stay on this diet – it becomes a negative experience. Your body craves foods that will sustain you, especially those that have emotional connotations for you, and eventually, your diet fails. Your mind will trigger your self-preservation mechanism and you will go back to eating things that are not good for your weight loss.

Clinical hypnosis for weight loss is safe, natural, there is no use of medication: extreme dieting that makes you so unhappy or counting calories is not a part of the treatment.

Instead, it uses a combination of clinical hypnosis and CBT that changes the way you think and feel about food.

The focus is always on keeping the weight off long term so that once a client has achieved their weight loss target, or feels that they have the strength to continue on the right course, they don’t need further sessions.

To find out more about how clinical hypnosis can help you lose weight and keep it off, and to get started right away at home – download my eBook 10 Simple Steps To Weight Loss Success here.

If you have any further questions about clinical hypnosis for weight loss, please leave a comment below or contact me directly.

Weight Loss With CBT A Case Study

Weight Loss With CBT: A Case Study

A wake-up call from his doctor warning that he was pre-diabetic and on a slippery slope to becoming morbidly obese; was the catalyst that resulted in him contacting me.

Toby knew that he needed to change his behaviour and habits around food. Slimming products were not having the desired effect as he was overeating and not exercising. Having found out about Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (CBT) and clinical hypnotherapy, he decided that this was the way to turn his life around.

In just 6 sessions Toby was able to:

  • Gain control over his excessive eating and take control over what he eats,
  • Start an exercise regimen to suit his schedule and has now been going to the gym for the last two months,
  • Lose his target weight of 1 and a half stone in the 2 months since he has been to therapy with me.

Overweight And Miserable

When Toby came to me he was 42, four stone overweight, and living with his mother. He was increasingly finding that his weight was affecting his health, he found it difficult to get around and a blood test had shown his blood sugar levels were too high. His doctor had spelt out the prognosis, ‘lose the weight or you’ll become diabetic’ – diabetes and obesity can lead to other chronic diseases such as cardiovascular disease.

As well as the impact on his physical health he was also feeling unhappy, self-conscious, anxious and lacked self-confidence because of his weight. This meant that he didn’t socialise and spent most of his free time playing computer games and watching old movies with his mum.

Bad Habits

When he first contacted me Toby said, ‘I snack a lot after my main meals, eating bread, chocolate, fatty foods and fizzy drinks. My mum cooks huge meals and I don’t want to hurt her feelings so I eat even when I am not hungry. I struggle with anxiety and panic attacks and eating makes me feel better, but that has meant I’ve withdrawn from the outside world and I’ve been hiding at home with mum’.

As his weight has increased Toby has found exercising difficult. He’s self-conscious of his body fat and his low mood has prevented him from feeling motivated and strong enough to go to the gym or to the pool for a swim.

Cognitive Behaviour Therapy And Clinical Hypnotherapy

‘From the minute I met Andrea I know that she understood exactly how I felt and she immediately put me at ease. The sessions were relaxed, informative and I learnt calming and relaxation techniques that I will take away for the rest of my life’.

The warning from his doctor came at the right time and Toby decided it was the time he took charge of his weight and life too. He thought clinical hypnotherapy would give him the motivation to change his thoughts and feelings about his image, and also his behaviour towards food. He wanted to eat less and exercise more. He wanted to start eating healthy meals, cut back on the snacks and find the motivation to exercise to tone his body. As a result, he would feel confident to go out with a few people at work and make friends. He thought that this would also give him the courage to move out and then start to cook and look after his own dietary needs. He was right!

I worked with Toby over 6 sessions and during this time he made some significant changes.

Initially, we worked on his self-esteem and his negative and self-critical feelings – ‘I am useless, worthless, unattractive, not worth loving’. We also changed his focus on food and the thoughts he had around eating – ‘if I start eating I cannot stop – I am really out of control’.

Instead, we found a new focus revolving around exercise, healthy eating and mindfulness. Taking control over his diet and food consumption has radically changed the negative emotions he had around food, and this has improved his self-esteem.

At the same time, Toby has made some changes at home and in his social life. He now cooks his own meals to ensure that they are healthy and for portion control, and he has started to socialise with a few people at work. As well as swimming once a week, he has also renewed an old hobby (bowling), which also gives him an opportunity to meet new people.

The stand out feature of this therapy was that it has changed him and his eating habits for good. He felt better that he had ever felt in his life. He also felt confident and asked his boss for a promotion and started doing a course on weekends and online so he could work towards this. CBT and clinical hypnotherapy has given him a new lease of life, and one new friendship he has made has the potential to become more serious.

‘After 6 sessions I was able to change my habits and behaviours with CBT’.

Now two months on from starting CBT and clinical hypnotherapy, he no longer has any sessions but is continuing to achieve his goals.

Toby now exercises four times a week and has lost 1 and a half stone. He feels confident that he now has the right mindset to continue this good work and lose the rest of the weight in a healthy and sensible way.

He has also moved into his own home.

Toby says, ‘In my opinion, CBT and clinical hypnotherapy is a healthier way to lose weight as it has dealt with the negative emotions and behaviours I had about food and my body image. Andrea has gently guided me towards a healthier way of living, giving me the tools to continue working towards my goals.’


If you would like to talk in confidence about your relationship with food, weight loss, body image, anxiety or any other issue that Toby’s story highlights, please contact me for a free 30 minute consultation. You can call 07967 151 790, email [email protected] or book a consultation here.

 

Why Is Your Diet Isn’t Working, dieting tips

Why Your Diet Isn’t Working

Why Is Your Diet Isn’t Working, dieting tips

Most people who diet for long periods of time have different stories to tell about why their diet is not working. The general assumption is that they are unable to lose weight long-term because they did not have the willpower to keep dieting, or they were too weak or succumbed to some naughty foods.

The psychology of why some diets don’t work is that people did not know how to keep the weight off long-term. They cannot motivate themselves to keep going on the diet especially if there is a temptation from some foods that they are partial to. They don’t see their setbacks as temporary and they should keep going, not give up. They are unable to control the cravings, sometimes unhealthy emotions overwhelm them and they feel hopeless.

When you start on your new diet it’s really easy in the beginning, but after a period of time, you are unable to persevere.

What To Do If Your Diet Isn’t Working

You can successfully be in control of what you eat and your diet; you just need to know how to. For example, it’s like learning to swim, once you learn how to swim you never forget.

By learning to picture the effects of our behaviour in detail we are able to transform our motivation and change the way we feel and act. We see things clearly in a new light when we think of the consequences of our actions. You see what that behaviour does to you, the full implications of the negative belief.

Some people who diet have misinterpreted their negative thoughts and this prevents them from reaching their ideal weight.

The negative thoughts you self-sabotage your diet are as follows:

  • Justify why you are eating cakes and sweets,
  • Miscalculate the results of eating naughty food,
  • Cheating yourself by saying its ok if I eat this today, I can re-start my diet tomorrow,
  • Rules from your childhood: I cannot waste food because it would mean wasting money and I was taught not to waste food as a child,
  • Not wanting to say no to friends and family when offered a cake or chocolate,
  • Fear of being hungry so eating the chocolate bar or crisps.

Why did my diet not work?

  • You were starving yourself: due to the fact you are not eating enough, you are getting hungry in the middle of the day and then overeating later. Skipping meals means that your body loses its ability to feel full and you feel hungry and fail to burn the calories.
  • You exercise and reward yourself with food: you are possibly not exercising enough for example underestimation the amount of food you have eaten and overestimating your exercise to burn the burn of the calories.
  • You drink unhealthy drinks such as diet colas and no sugar drinks. These drinks can be deceptive and fake sweeteners can trick you into thinking that you are being consistent on you diet. But you might still crave a candy bar because fake drinks do not trigger a dopamine (feel good) release like sugar does.
  • You struggle with your weight due to your friends or family not exercising as well and you all fall in a pattern of eating unhealthy. So if you can make a deal with your friends or a family member to start a new weight loss program, which includes a healthy eating plan and an exercise plan, you will persevere.
  • You have not eaten fast foods or carbohydrates for a long while. This means that your body is lacking in nutrients like essential calcium and vitamin C and you will compensate by eating something that is not good for you and put on weight. Eating a variety of healthy foods, good carbohydrates in fruits and healthy fats is something you need to stick to long-term.

So how can you overcome these negative or self-sabotaging thoughts and behaviours? Owning up to them is a good step in the right direction. If you recognise any of the above behaviour be reassured that you’re not the only one who has these thoughts, many other people are in the same boat.

Here are a few things you can do to help yourself, and underneath where you can get further help and support so that your diet does work long-term:

  • Note down on a card your reasons for wanting to lose weight,
  • Plan in advance what you are going to eat and repeat your positive affirmations over and over again to be in control of your cravings,
  • If you crave foods that are not good for you, take your list out about your reasons for wanting to lose your excess weight, also distract yourself,
  • If you get hungry, eat a healthy snack and the feelings of hunger will go away,
  • Eat a healthy breakfast and lunch, eat a light dinner not too late in the evening,
  • Choose to exercise regularly and keep at it. Don’t give up,
  • If you do eat some naughty foods, don’t give up keep going on your healthy eating plan. Don’t just keep eating those naughty foods all day,
  • Eat slowly and mindfully, chew carefully and enjoy every bite you eat.

Hypnotherapy can help weight loss with Cognitive Behaviour therapy. It can help you to learn how to change your unhelpful and inaccurate thoughts about why your diet is not working and feel good emotionally. By identifying sabotaging behaviour with your cravings for naughty foods and respond effectively, you will reach your weight loss goals.

  • It helps face your weight loss challenges with self-confidence and you will be able to know what to do when you struggle with your diet,
  • Prepares your mind and body for any sabotaging thoughts, and helps you to become strong,

Find out more about hypnotherapy for weight loss here.