In a world that is increasingly too fast paced and competitive to allow genuine, deep and lasting relationships and self-care, it really should not come as a shock that low self-confidence has become a pandemic. Over 80% of the world’s population is said to suffer from low self-esteem and a lack of self-confidence.
The world cannot continue to run well on individuals who have no confidence to be leaders and to stand up for what is right.
The good news is that there are not “confident people” and “un-confident people,” as though it were a genetic trait you are stuck with. If you, like the majority of people in the world, struggle with a lack of self-confidence, know that you don’t have to struggle with it forever. You can achieve healthy self-confidence.
In this post, I will explain the importance of self-confidence and provide practical tips on how to develop self-confidence and positive attitude so that you can begin moving forward toward a more confident and effective you.
First, it is important to understand what is meant by “self-confidence.”
Unfortunately, many assume that self-confidence is just arrogance or narcissism. For many suffering from low self-worth and confidence, this thought pattern can actually be a part of what holds them back from trying to change their outlook on themselves – they do not want to be “arrogant” and so don’t pursue a better view of themselves.
However, there is healthy self-confidence that is neither arrogant nor narcissistic, and it is vitally important for individuals to develop.
How to Develop Self-Confidence
So, if you are wondering “how can I be confident in myself,” be encouraged and know that it IS possible. It will take a little time, but be patient with yourself and after a while you will start noticing a difference.
So, if you are ready for a more confident you, try following these self-confidence tips:
If you feel like you may need help retraining your thoughts and learning how to develop self-confidence while speaking or just in general, consider seeking professional assistance.
Andrea Smith is a Qualified Clinical Hypnotherapist and Cognitive Behaviour Therapist with a Masters in Psychology. To discuss your situation and learn about her unique process, book your free session with her now!
More than 80% of the world’s population wrestles with low self-esteem and self-confidence.
Perhaps it is the nature of our ever increasing fast-paced living, increasing tech-induced disconnection from genuine, healthy relationships, highly competitive work lives, or social media convincing us that everyone’s lives are perfect except ours – whatever the reasons, low self-esteem now seems like an epidemic.
The good news is, if you are one of the majority of individuals suffering from low self-esteem, it doesn’t have to stay that way.
Identifying the Problem
First, what is low self esteem?
Low self-esteem is having a poor opinion of yourself. People suffering from low self-esteem often experience feelings of dislike and even disgust with themselves, often struggling with habits, behaviors, and attitudes that they do not like but feel hopeless to change.
Individuals with low self-esteem feel like the world is against them, that no one likes them, and that things will always go wrong. They tend to see themselves as victims of bad luck and a hostile world, and are convinced that nothing will ever change.
As a result, individuals with low self-esteem shy away from sharing their thoughts, trying new things, and joining in activities. They tend to be very needy, always seeking the approval and affirmation of those around them, yet when receiving it, are likely to scoff at it or disbelieve its sincerity.
This failure to participate and thrive in a social environments and life in general then feeds their low self-esteem and creates a vicious, downward cycle.
Clearly, this is not a healthy way to live and it hurts everyone. Low self-esteem in relationships, regardless of what type, can make the relationship feel like a burden, can lead to fights and complications over the smallest issues, and can ultimately sabotage and destroy the relationship all together.
If any of these habits or attitudes sound familiar, you may be struggling with low self-esteem. If you suspect you do, you can take a self confidence test to help you assess where you are.
If you do struggle with low self-esteem, there is hope! You can learn how to overcome low self-esteem!
Improving self-esteem is an ongoing process and a constant check on your thoughts and attitudes. As you learn how to build self-esteem, just keep in mind that these new steps and habits need to become a way of life and are not just a quick, one-time fix. And be patient with yourself!
Now, here are a few tips on how to improve self-esteem:
If you struggle with low self-esteem but feel like you need help getting a start on changing your outlook, there are many methods that can help, including hypnotherapy and seeing a behaviour therapist.
I am a Qualified Clinical Hypnotherapist and Cognitive Behaviour Therapist. Contact me today for a free session to learn more about my process and how we can get you onto the road to higher self-esteem.
Obesity has become an increasing problem in our fast-paced world that often keeps us too busy to fix and enjoy healthy foods and lifestyles. Lose weight fast is no easy task. It requires changing our habits and routines and is not about one quick fix.
If we want to be successful at losing weight and maintaining a healthy weight, we must persevere in changing patterns regarding what and when we eat as well as our physical activity.
Often times, though, it is not only what we eat and what we do for exercise that impacts our success or failure to lose weight – it is also what we think and believe. So many people meet defeat in their minds long before their new diet or exercise regime fails. Then, when the fad diet or exercise plan of choice does fail (or we fail at it), it drops us deeper into self-defeating attitudes.
Losing weight fast for women is especially difficult. It is so easy for women especially to suffer from poor self-image and confidence based on their repeated struggles to lose weight. But self-defeating attitudes, poor self-esteem, and bad expectations or misguided beliefs can all sabotage our best attempts to achieve fast weight loss.
If you are struggling with unwanted weight gain and are looking for ways to lose weight, keep reading. I’ll first address many of the mistakes people make when they do try to lose weight, many of them based in wrong assumptions or bad attitudes. Then I’ll discuss methods of how to lose weight fast and easy and keep it off.
Finally, consider how cognitive behaviour hypnotherapy as part of your weight management program may benefit you and give you the jump start and motivation to lose weight.
Mistakes to Avoid When Trying to Lose Weight
Unfortunately, there are many weight loss myths and attitude out there that many of us believe, but which unfortunately are likely to have the opposite of what we’d hoped.
Here are some common mistakes to avoid when you are trying to lose weight and develop a healthy self-image:
Steps to Take to Start Losing Weight Fast
Successful weight loss is often much simpler than we want to make it. Often, the following simple steps can go a long way to starting you on a successful weight loss journey:
I love helping clients accomplish their weight loss goals and helping them see it can be much easier and simpler than they thought. Please give me a call today to learn more about how hypnotherapy can help you accomplish your weight loss goals.
The number of people suffering from anxiety and depression has unfortunately sky-rocketed even in just the last ten years, as they lack anxiety coping skills (tips for dealing with anxiety).
World events, ever-increasing demands to live fast-paced, non-stop lives, social media tends to make people compare their lives to others, times of recession – all of these and more are likely culprits for why so many individuals now find themselves wrestling with the beast of anxiety. So, how to deal with anxiety and stress?
But there is hope and there are methods you can begin right now to help you cope with anxiety when it comes. If you want to know how to control anxiety attacks and how to get rid of anxiety naturally, keep reading as we review simple tips you can do at home.
Then whether you want to find success and not using the anxiety self-help tips for dealing with anxiety without medication, you should still consider talking with a therapist to help ensure a proper foundation for staying mentally healthy and strong.
As a qualified clinical hypnotherapist and cognitive behaviour therapist, I have helped many people learn how to deal with anxiety attacks even without the use of medication. You can schedule your free 30-minute session with me to discover how hypnotherapy could help you learn how to overcome anxiety and depression in your life.
How to Overcome Anxiety and Fear
For those who wish to avoid the often potentially harmful depression and anxiety medications, there are options. Many have found themselves capable of dealing with anxiety without medication when they practice some of these mental exercises and habits (anxiety coping skills list).
Try one or all to see which ones help you overcome your anxiety:
It is OK to Seek Help
While there are many methods to controlling your anxiety at home, if you are struggling to figure out how to deal with anxiety attacks and fear in your life, there is no shame in seeking professional help.
If you feel like you need a boost in your journey to overcoming anxiety, contact me to arrange your free 30-minute consultation today.
“Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who matter don’t mind and those that mind, don’t matter.” Dr Seuss
How you think and feel about yourself? Having self-love, self-belief and self-esteem are some of the most important things you can do for yourself. They may sound selfish or narcissistic, but actually having this self-confidence will help you be a better person, help others and make the world a better place to be.
Being able to build and maintain one’s self-esteem is important:
When you work toward building your self-confidence you will be able to stay calm and handle the difficult times better.
In their lives many people experience issues with self-esteem and self-confidence. Sometimes this may be for a short period, for others it can be a long term problem. Whatever your background, it is never too late to work on these issues. There has been a stage in my own life when things have been difficult, but I worked on any self-worth issues I have had from my past and keep myself calm every day. My life has now become simpler and building my self-esteem means that I am happier now.
Using my own personal experience and my years spent working as a clinical hypnotherapist cognitive behaviour therapist, I have developed a programme to help other people with self-confidence issues. Find out more about hypnotherapy for self-confidence here.
Here are 5 things you can do to boost yourself like I did:
“Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending”. Maria Robinson
These 5 things that you can do to boost self-confidence have done a wonderful job on my own self-esteem. If you need any help or support contact me on [email protected] or call me on 07967151790.
We all suffer from sleep deprivation at some time or the other. This can be due to air travel, anxiety, stress, medical issues or other interruptions in your sleep routine. Sleep problems can cause tiredness in your daily routine; and if it’s a regular occurrence and can lead to physical and mental issues.
This can manifest itself as weight gain, stress, memory problems, low mood, irregular blood pressure, loss of energy and a compromised immune system.
How do you know whether your insomnia is big problem, an annoying issue or medical problem? Read through the following list and see whether or not you do these things:
If any of the above answers are yes then you do suffer from a sleep disorder. We all have an internal clock that regulates our sleep patterns know as circadian rhythms. When it becomes dark our brain releases a hormone called melatonin that makes us feel sleepy and we go to sleep. But when it is light (a cue) in the daytime sends a message to our brain that its time to wake up influencing your circadian rhythms. These rhythms are linked to the sleeping problems, which when not in sync, can lead to anxiety, depression and winter blues or seasonal affective disorder.
What are the things you can do to get a good nights sleep, overcome sleep issues and learn to deal with them effectively:
By identifying the factors that could be affecting your sleep you can take steps to avoid them, or work on these issues. For example if you are feeling stressed you can try relaxation techniques, or you may want to get professional help such as clinical hypnosis with cognitive behaviour therapy to address the underlying issues that are causing your stressed state.
Things you can do for yourself to improve your sleep patterns:
If stress from work, family, relationships or your career or school is causing you sleepless nights, learning to cope with your stress, anxiety and maintain a calm, relaxed outlook that can help you get a good nights sleep is important.
If you think you could benefit from some professional help, take advantage of my free 30 minute consultation to discuss your options and get advice and strategies to sleep better at night.[bookly-form]
Most people go through life eating, working, socialising, without thinking much certain about how their actions affect their bodies. We may notice the effects our bad habits are having when we feel under the weather or have problems sleeping; but while we can make some connections between physical symptoms and our habits we are unaware of the real damage to our health and what to do about it.
Read on to see whether you recognise any of the problems and symptoms of these common things that can result in bad habits.
By eating a healthy diet, you can have a good effect on your body, brain and keep your weight under control. If you are eating a diet low in nutrients or foods that are bad for your body this can have long-term effects on your brain.
When you actively eat foods that damage your health, long-term your brain becomes exposed to cellular inflammation and this damages some cells that can cause development of diseases like Dementia and Alzheimer’s disease. Also food containing sugars and saturated fats like burgers, cakes and french fries can have detrimental effects on your brain. To stop this, you can start eating healthy foods: fruits, whole grains, fish and vegetables which are rich in antioxidants and these will fight damaging effects of inflammation.
Stress and anxiety such as relationship issues, work commitments, family problems and financial issues can cause you to develop habits that can damage your health. Some stress is good when working hard towards your goals, but excess stress can lead you to eat too much of the bad foods. Stress can trigger a sympathetic nervous response that makes your breathing quicken and heart breath faster releasing cortisol.
After you calm down your parasympathetic nervous response kicks in which leads to you to relax. Chronic stress can make you forget things and be more anxious and perform badly at work. You may revert to bad habits like smoking, overeating or drinking too much. When you feel tense and anxious there are deep relaxation techniques, yoga, mindfulness, meditation and visualisation techniques that can help you get in control of the overwhelm.
An active lifestyle can help you not only stay physically fit but also keeping organs like your heart and lungs functioning better and maintaining your optimal weight. Exercise can also help keep you mentally acute and helps your cognitive health too. Movement improves physical and mental health, releases endorphins and keeps you looking young and healthy.
Even just walking for about 20 minutes a day is positive for your brain and can improve your cognitive brain functioning. It will mean making better decisions with your food habits, help you keep focused despite the many distractions around and help with conflicts that may arise.
Sleep can also enhance your health and well being. If you struggle with your sleep patterns, you will wake up irritable, tired and not able to concentrate on your work or at your studies. Lack of sleep can interfere with your brain function and you may resort to bad habits, such as eating junk foods to give you energy to work.
If you know that you struggle with sleep then aim to eat healthy foods in the evening – not chocolate or biscuits at night – also avoid caffeine or drinking alcohol before you go to bed.
Define the goals and set a time limit that is realistic with what you want to achieve by kicking the bad habits. It can be hard and emotional, but persistence will make you succeed.
If you can acknowledge your bad habits, take active steps with commitment and tailor your attitudes to match them, you will make positive changes to the bad habits that can damage your health.
Try a few of these techniques:
Kicking bad habits takes a certain amount of willpower and a good understanding of how your mind works. You need to work with these mental patterns rather than fighting against them.
If you find it hard to make long-term changes to your bad habits, attitudes or behaviours clinical hypnosis with cognitive behaviour therapy can help. It can identify the issues and triggers that cause your bad habits, and make healthier suggestions that will help you improve your health and wellbeing.
Contact me for a chat about your individual situation – click here.
Whether No Smoking Day (8th March 2017) is the reason you want to quit smoking, or if you’ve just decided that now is the right time to stop smoking for good, finding the right smoking cessation method can be difficult.
Patches, gum, nicotine replacements and other methods can be successful for some people, but not for everyone. However, self-hypnosis is a great option – whether used alone or in combination with another smoking cessation method.
In this post I share why self-hypnosis is so successful, and also tips for practising it at home.
Most people believe that hypnosis is like stage hypnosis, it will make you ‘cluck like a chicken’ or ‘dance around the room’; but hypnosis is an evidence-based method and does not make you fall asleep or do things against your will. During a hypnosis session you will relax through visualisation and deep breathing exercises, and the hypnotherapist will guide you through the whole process. You will receive a piece a music that helps with the relaxation or a hypnosis CD. Suggestions given during the hypnosis session will help you change your feelings and thoughts; and the behaviour that follows. It will help you focus on your stop smoking goals by accepting the suggestions and preparing you for success.
Self-hypnosis can help you to concentrate and focus on your end goal to stop smoking for good by changing your habits and behaviours.
If you have found it difficult to gain control over your smoking habit in the past and respond well to suggestions, self-hypnosis will work well for you. Hypnosis relies on your belief that you can quit and you are ready to make the changes that is needed to quit. Your commitment to quit smoking and self-hypnosis will help you succeed with your goal.
The following self-hypnosis tips are best used after having had a professional hypnosis for smoking cessation session. If you would like to discuss your goals to stop smoking with me, please book a free 30 minute consultation here.
Some people can quit after one session with the clinical hypnotherapist while for others it can take six sessions for this to work. Every person has their own unique way that therapy works for them. By practicing self-hypnosis techniques you will be effective in gaining control of this habit that had plagued you for a long time. Keep your mind busy when you feel the strong urge to smoke, also eat healthy meals and drink plenty of water. Find an exercise class or an activity that you can keep busy with and try to avoid alcohol drinks that may make you go back to smoking again.
Self-hypnosis can be difficult to master and does not work for everyone, which is why a session with a clinical hypnotherapist can help you get started. The therapist may be able to uncover other underlying issues that are affecting your ability to stop smoking, for example stress and anxiety.
Quitting smoking with self-hypnosis as a stand-alone or as an adjunct therapy is an effective way to stop smoking. Self-hypnosis will help you to keep reinforcing the suggestions given in the sessions especially on the days that you feel the urge to smoke a cigarette. Remember that smoking is not a physical habit or behaviour, it is a mental problem and the way to achieve success with your quit smoking goal is through getting the help you need.
If you would like to discuss any of the above in more detail please get in touch with me. Call +44 (0)796 715 1790 or email [email protected]
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Personal development is a lifelong process of working on our individual qualities, behaviours and feelings to help us achieve our goals and live the life we desire. For some of us this is an easy process but for others, it is difficult to find what is ‘missing’ in our lives. We may find it difficult to recognise the patterns of habits and behaviours that stop us from achieving our goals.
Many of us have self-destructive behaviours that undermine our ability to achieve our goals. They are learnt over time and are often associated with negative thoughts about ourselves. They may make us feel low and unmotivated, they may represent that voice in your head saying, ‘I can’t do it.’
Personal development is important. It doesn’t have to be about progressing in your career or running a successful business; it can just as easily be about obtaining balance in your life, having healthy positive relationships, or having the strength to create a new life for yourself.
If you are struggling with personal development and want to break the cycle of negative thoughts that may be sabotaging your efforts, Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (CBT) and hypnosis is a great way to be focused and formulate your goals while changing negative thought patterns.
Generally, we all believe that achieving success in life is difficult, and failure is easy. Our language confirms this belief – we strive for success, we climb mountains, we believe that achieving our goals is a challenge.
If we already have this belief when we embark on personal development, is it any wonder that it feels so easy to fail?
Of course, some things are difficult. Quitting smoking, losing weight, breaking habits and behaviours that have become embedded over time. Failure can also become a habit, those self-destructive thoughts that say, ‘I will never quit smoking because I’m addicted’ or ‘I will never lose weight because I comfort eat.’
Therefore before we even give ourselves a chance at success, our subconscious is already doing its best to make us fail.
So if you are serious about personal development, you need to break the habits that set you up for failure, recognise when those behaviours are sabotaging your plans, and then focus on positive and achievable goals that will help you view success as easy.
This is where CBT with hypnosis can be a powerful tool to help change the way you think, feel, and behave. It can help you understand when those past negative thoughts and patterns are affecting you NOW, and teach you how to get rid of these feelings and focus on positive thoughts instead.
CBT and clinical hypnosis are highly effective at with personal development in the following key areas:
Clinical hypnosis programmes are tailored to suit the individual, their needs and goals, and the issues they are struggling with. It has been proven to help people remove the restraints that are holding them back and motivate them to find the success that they desire, and motivate them even further to live their life in a positive and constructive manner.
It is more than important in today’s world to learn more about yourself, know how your emotions work and manage them in everyday settings. Changeable times and rapid developing circumstances have created a cascade of emotional issues. There has been an increase in anxiety disorders, panic attacks, depression, anger issues and stress related problems. These emotional difficulties have made presenting psychological support and information the appropriate way very valuable.
Personal development is something all of us can embrace; just make sure that you provide yourself with the right conditions to make it a success.
If you would like to talk through your thoughts and feelings about personal development, book a free 30 minute consultation with me here.
Having self-belief, confidence and healthy self-esteem will help you take control of your relationships. By focusing on the value you place on yourself – which is your self-belief – you will boost your self-confidence in your relationships with other people and build strong bonds with them.
Your self-esteem is how to feel about yourself, your ‘positive regard’ and how much self-love you have. Your self-belief is influenced by how you think, feel and act. In other words, it comes from a sense of your beliefs about your identity and your stance in your world regardless of the expectations that you yourself or society puts on you.
Sometimes a woman’s self-esteem can be fragile. Women often compare themselves to other people and sometimes will change their behaviour to fit in accordingly. We live in a changeable world and many women feel they have to work really hard to fit into male-dominated environments. They feel they have to work hard to measure up.
A woman’s relationship with her partner can also be a vicious cycle, she may feel that she needs to conform her partner’s needs but this can lower her self-esteem and self-confidence. This also can weaken the bond she is trying to build with the partner. Instead of remaining true to her values and beliefs, she may focus on making her partner happy instead. And this distances her away from her own self-worth, self-belief and integrity, which lowers her self-confidence even more.
Here are a few questions you can ask yourself about your confidence in your relationship:
If you know that your self-belief, lack of confidence and self-esteem is damaging your relationships with other people, there is support available. Hypnosis is a powerful tool to address negative thoughts and behaviours and find the self-belief and confidence you need to take control of your relationships.
Contact me for a free consultation if you would like to discuss this in more detail.
The key to an honest and balanced relationship is for both remaining true to their own self-belief and integrity to build a strong and secure bond.
Key areas you can change to boost your self-confidence:
Self-confidence is an amazing quality to have that this can help create and build a wonderful, passionate, equal and loving relationship.
Working with people to help them build lost self-confidence or boost their low self-esteem is a passion of mine so please contact me if you would like some help.
Never let obstacles get in the way of loving relationships and enjoying your incredible life.